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Dependant Personality Disorder Case Study

Obtain insight into co-dependence. Read therapy notes from patient diagnosed with Dependent Personality Disorder.

Notes of first therapy session with Mona, female, 32, diagnosed with Dependent Personality Disorder (or Codependence)

"I know I won't actually die, but it often feels like it." - says Mona and nervously pats her auburn hair - "I can't live without him, that's for sure. When he is gone, it's like life switching from Technicolor to black and white. There is no excitement, this electricity in the air that seems to constantly surround him." She misses him so much that it physically hurts. Sometimes she feels like throwing up at the mere thought of separating or being abandoned by him. She is helpless without him: "He is so masterful and knows how to fix things around the house." He is gorgeous and a great lover.

Is he intellectually stimulating? Do they talk a lot? She moves uncomfortably in her seat: "He is more the silent strong type." She is supporting him financially. "He is studying". In the last seven years he had switched from psychology to political science to physical therapy. How long will she underwrite his quest for self-realization? "As long as it takes. I love him".

She acknowledges that he is verbally and sometimes physically abusive. He has cheated on her more times than she can count, usually with classmates at the university. So, why is she still with him? "He has his good sides". Do they outweigh his bad ones? She is evidently displeased with my question but is reluctant to express her reservations.

I tell her that - her intimate partner having refused to attend therapy - I am merely trying to get to know him better if only by proxy. Evidently something is bothering her, otherwise we wouldn't be having this therapy session. "I want to learn how to hold on to him."- she whispers - "He is a very special man and has special needs. I am looking for guidance on how to hook him. I want him to become addicted to me, like a junkie." She even participated in group sex once or twice to make his fantasies come true.

Does this strike her as the basis for a healthy relationship? She doesn't care. She consulted all her friends and even casual acquaintances but she doesn't know whether to trust them. Does she have many friends? Not any more. Why not? People get tired of her, they say that she is clinging. But that's not true - she only asks their advice on a regular basis. "What are friends for, anyhow?"

Does she have a job? She is a lawyer, but her dream is to become a film director. She vividly and enthusiastically describes what she would do behind the camera. What's holding her back? She laughs self-deprecatingly: "Except for mediocre talent, nothing."

This article appears in my book, "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"



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Last Updated: 06 July 2016
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The Complete Woman


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: It’s 1962. Do you know where your husband is? The tides are changing for American housewives and divorce is on the rise. Love and marriage expert Marabel May wants to save your marriage! Her acclaimed book ‘The Complete Woman!’ has taken the nation by storm! Now, the audio companion to her #1 best seller is available on vinyl for your listening pleasure. Marabel’s twelve step ‘Complete Woman’ program has already saved over 100 marriages in the continental United States and four in American Samoa! Marabel will improve your marriage or your husband’s money back. She guarantees it!

EPISODES: 4:6


Mar 01, 2016 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder | Tags: Amanda Lund, Jeremy Carter, Marabel May, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Molly Hawkey, The Complete Woman | Leave A Comment »


Antiques Roadsale


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: Antiques Roadsale is a harrowing voyage through the junk in America’s trunk. Our show travels the hills and dales of this great country, assessing and appraising marvels of patina-spackled history, Cobweb-covered memories, and things that just look like Civil War commuter mugs or some shit. Join us as we place absolutely arbitrary monetary value on heirlooms, artifacts, and garage sale horsefeathers. The Antiques Roadsale will be in your town soon, peeking under grandpa’s bed for some dusty olds and telling you what you could get for it. (Probably a Victorian claw-job.)

EPISODES:4:4

SUPEREGO: BEHIND THE BONUS: SEASON 4: PART 2


Mar 01, 2015 | Categories: Dependent Personality Disorder, Uncategorized | Tags: Antiques Roadsale, Jeremy Carter, Kristen Schaal, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Paul F. Tompkins | Leave A Comment »


The Jagged Stone Forest Rangers


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: The friendly forest rangers at Jagged Stone National Park are not friendly. They are barely forest rangers. Their training is minimal and their contact with other human beings is purposefully limited. If you are hoping that they’ll lead you to that path where you can hike up to Victory-Slice Point to watch the sunset, you might as well buy a nice picture postcard in the gift shop, send it to yourself COD, and hop back in your Nissan Fuckyou, greenhorn.

EPISODES:4:2


Oct 01, 2014 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies, Dr. McConville's Case Studies, Dr. Tompkins' Case Studies | Tags: Jeremy Carter, Kristen Schaal, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Paul F. Tompkins, The Jagged Stone Forest Rangers | Leave A Comment »


George Zimmer


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: George Zimmer guarantees that you’re going to like the way you look.*

* But not look the way you like.

SUPEREGO: BEHIND THE BONUS: SEASON 3: PART 1


Aug 01, 2014 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder | Tags: Brian Bradley, George Zimmer, Ryan Smith | Leave A Comment »


Princess Pomegranate Singles Cruise


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: All aboard! The Princess Pomegranate Singles Cruise is a safe place for men and women of legal boning age to go ahead and get funky with a couple strangers out there in Poseidon’s paradise. You’ll enjoy a sumptuous buffet with cuisine from around the world, a casino with exhilarating games of chance, and a smorgasbord of poon and peen. Go ahead, indulge! This summer, we’re dropping our anchor in some strange waters, so why don’t you do the same. Princess Pomegranate!

EPISODES:3:15


Dec 03, 2012 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies, Dr. McConville's Case Studies | Tags: Greg Proops, Jeremy Carter, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Princess Pomegranate Singles Cruise, Rob Delaney | Leave A Comment »


The Amtrak Heartland Flyer


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: Sit back, relax and enjoy the unique scenery unfolding outside the windows of The Amtrak Heartland Flyer, running its 4,618 mile daily round trip between Oklahoma City, Texas and Fort Worth, Texas. With stops along the way in Norman, Purcell, Pauls Valley, Ardmore, and Gainesville, there are thrills and attractions for everyone! The Amtrak Heartland Flyer is the transportation choice for those Americans who are too paranoid to fly, too fat to walk, and too questionable in the credit department to finance a 1993 Mercury Topaz with 179,000 miles on it. Put down your book, turn off your smartphone, and surround yourself in stupid. The Heartland Flyer will have passengers to their destination in just a few hours, but it will feel like a lifetime.

EPISODES:3:9 / 3:17

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Nov 01, 2011 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies, Dr. McConville's Case Studies, Dr. Tompkins' Case Studies | Tags: Andy Daly, Jeremy Carter, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Paul F. Tompkins, The Amtrak Heartland Flyer | Leave A Comment »


Amigo Auto Insurance


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: The boys down at Amigo Auto Insurance are real go-getters. When you need to file a claim, they’ll get going.

SUPEREGO: BEHIND THE BONUS: SEASON 2: PART 1


Jan 01, 2011 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies, Dr. McConville's Case Studies | Tags: Amigo Auto Insurance, Chris Tallman, Jesse Thorn, Jordan Morris, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley | Leave A Comment »


Bruce And Ed with Kit, Klaus, And Xiong


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: Bruce ‘The Throat’ Hume and Ed ‘The Inflection’ Olivas are proud to be joined by Kit ‘The Lullaby’ Le Fevre, Klause ‘The Glottis’ Hergesheimer, and Xiong ‘The Diphthong’ Wong for this very special endtimes commercial.

EPISODES:
2:11


Feb 01, 2010 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies, Dr. McConville's Case Studies, Dr. Tompkins' Case Studies | Tags: Bruce "The Throat" Hume, Ed "The Inflection" Olivas, Jeremy Carter, Kit 'The Lullaby' Le Fevre, Klaus 'The Lullaby' Hergesheimer, Mark Gagliardi, Mark McConville, Matt Gourley, Paul F. Tompkins, Xiong 'The Diphthong' Wong | Leave A Comment »


Pete Balch


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: Poor Pete Balch. Recently widowed when his wife died years ago, he sought to ease his loneliness by opening the Let’s Call It A Draw Trophy Shoppe; a store where you can buy such trophies as ‘Second Place in Facial Recognition,’ ‘Car Wash of the Decade,’ and ‘Best Vein.’ His wife recently died and also his wife died recently.

Pete Balch is the Hotel California of men: you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave. His store is the kind of business that somehow stays open year in, year out, despite Balch’s complete inability to complete a simple transaction. The tedium of listening to him go on about his dead wife is overpowered only by the guilt you’d have in telling him to, ‘please for the love of all things big and small, shut your hole.’

Balch subjects his customers to unwanted lunch dates, stories of wars he wasn’t in, and descriptions of things that look swollen to him. Anyone who will listen is going to get more than an earful. He pushes the boundaries of the customer-salesman relationship at the expense of ever selling a single trophy.

EPISODES:2:9 / 2:12 / 2:15 / 2:17 / 3:2


Dec 01, 2009 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies | Tags: Jeremy Carter, Joe Randazzo, Matt Gourley, Pete Balch | Leave A Comment »


Gary The Toothless Vampire


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY:
Gary Laramie Jr, AKA ‘The Toothless Vampire,’ has been seducing respectable executive assistants for over 300 years.

EPISODES:
2:7


Oct 01, 2009 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder | Tags: Derek Mears, Friday the 13th, Gary The Toothless Vampire, Jenny Flack | Leave A Comment »


3 Total Assholes


DIAGNOSIS: Schizotypal Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY: 3 Total Assholes are 3 assholes in totality. Three of them.

EPISODES:2:1


Apr 01, 2009 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies | Tags: 3 Total Assholes, Jason Sudeikis, Jeremy Carter, Joe Lo Truglio | Leave A Comment »


Milton and Dupree


DIAGNOSIS: Dependent Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY:
Cousins Vance Milton and Abelarde Dupree began performing the vaudeville circuit at the tender age of three months. Raised in a show business family, Milton & Dupree utilized their keen talents and canny showmanship to win over audiences all throughout the country. After selling out shows on the popular Orpheum Circuit, Milton & Dupree took time out to record the first ever comedy album, and their masterpiece: Milton, Dupree & Senator Elect James D. Phelan Makes Three. Their career ended tragically when Milton, intoxicated on Jamaican root extract burned Dupree to death with an industrial iron. It was Dupree’s demise and Milton’s subsequent incarceration that signaled the fall of the golden age of vaudeville.

Milton & Dupree were known for their patented ‘punchlineless humor.’ Whatever their routine lacked, they made up for with a strong dedication to their craft and a hearty dose of old-timey, razzle-dazzle. Like a hilarious two-headed amoeba, Milton & Dupree delighted audiences in an era that knew nothing of comedy. But then again, neither did Milton or Dupree.

EPISODES:1:7 / 1:9 / 1:13 / 1:17 / 2:5 / 2:13

SUPERSHORT: Playlist


Sep 01, 2006 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies | Tags: Jeff Crocker, Jeremy Carter, Matt Gourley, Milton and Dupree | Leave A Comment »


Bruce ‘The Throat’ Hume and Ed ‘The Inflection’ Olivas


DIAGNOSIS: Dependant Personality Disorder

CASE HISTORY:
Bruce “The Throat” Hume & Ed “The Inflection” Olivas have been the collective voice of movie trailers for a combined total of 60 years. Pictured above in 1983, Hume and Olivas first broke on to the scene as announcers for The Boothroyd Bourbon Mystery Hour. Since then, their alluring baritones have become synonymous with American movie trailer classics. Just a few of their film trailers include: Swollen Justice, Radical Jack and Put Down Your Guns H.M.S. Me Love You Long Time. Both Hume & Olivas have entertained unsuccessful solo careers only to return to the celebrated partnership. They currently reside somewhere along the California coast.

EPISODES:
1:1 / 1:2 / 1:3 / 1:4 / 1:5 / 1:6 / 1:7 / 1:8 / 1:9 / 1:10 / 1:13 / 1:16 / 1:17 / 2:1 / 2:4 / 2:11

SUPEREGO: BEHIND THE BONUS: SEASON 3: PART 1


Mar 01, 2006 | Categories: Case Studies, Dependent Personality Disorder, Dr. Carter's Case Studies, Dr. Gourley's Case Studies | Tags: Bruce "The Throat" Hume, Ed "The Inflection" Olivas, Jeremy Carter, Matt Gourley | Leave A Comment »